Do you want to feel better?

Clarity

Who doesn’t? 

For me, the starting point is beginning to find clarity around who you want to be as a person,

A Mom,

A wife,

A daughter.

You have to spend the time painting a picture for yourself of who you really are, the good and the bad.  If you don’t begin here, really becoming clear about where you are today, you are like someone going on a trip.  You reach for your phone to figure out the route, but you don’t know where you are, you don’t have your starting place.

This clarity of self is often hard for my clients.  Many people don’t take the time needed to define who they want to be and how they want to live their lives.

Many think that time spent is selfish.

Nope.

If you spend that time, it is actually one of the most loving and giving things that you can do for the people in your life because you begin to show up better for yourself, and then show up better for them. 

Try this exercise, name 3 words that describe who you want to be as a person, 3 words that you would like to aspire to, in your life.

If you can’t, guess.

This exercise is fluid.  Today, you can define what you want for where you are now, and then change your mind when life happens. 

Different seasons of life often make us want to be or live into different things.

At the passing of my Dad in December, I got really clear around what I needed and who I wanted to be for myself and for those I love.

I needed to be able to be open to and extend grace and compassion when I just couldn’t do what I thought needed to get done because I was grieving.

That is loving and kind clarity for myself, and for those I love.  Because I was creating that space for myself to grieve, I wasn’t expecting too much of myself, demanding that I do and achieve what I used to be able to.

And, because I was doing that for myself, then I was able to be kinder and more loving to my family too.

You see, if you don’t live intentionally for the season you are in with clarity, you suffer, and those you love suffer as well. 

Now, use your 3 words to remind yourself several times a day of who you want to be in life.

Write a stickie and put it on the mirror in your bathroom.  Meditate on your words as you brush your teeth. 

Write a stickie and put it on the dash of your car.  Meditate on your words as you transition from work to home so you can be who you want to be as a Mom, wife, or person.

Set an alarm in your phone for mid-day to remind you of how you want to live your life at work. 

This is an exercise that you can do for self, for your relationships, as a parent, or for your career.

One of the most impactful things I have done in my life is taken the time to be clear who I want to be in every area of my life.  I sincerely encourage you to do the same.

The mindset coaching that I do is one-on-one, weekly coaching where we dive deep into clarity in all areas of your life.  The beauty then is, once we become clear we discuss ways to bring intentionality into your life.  It is important to me in coaching that we find YOUR way that works with your brain.

You see, we are all different, we all think, plan, and cope differently.  Why would one solution that worked for that self-help author work for you?

I’m glad they found their way.  Let’s find yours. 

I would love to walk with you.  Contact me and we can set up a free consult call to chat about where you are in your life and where you would like to go.

Do you want to feel better?  Let’s figure it out together.